Stop. Just fucking stop please.
Stop judging people for what they do or do not listen to, play, or flat out do. I have been spoken to quite a few times recently by people and they ask me what music do I listen to. I tell them my answer and they will usually ask “Ever heard of this band so-and-so?”
God help me if I say no. They usually roll their eyes or gasp in shock. And then instantly judge me for not knowing a band they know. Don’t tell me they’re joking. I can see it, they thought you were pretty cool or interesting and then the moment you don’t like or know, they drop their shoulders, turn their body away from you and look away more often. You didn’t live up to their standards. Its so stupid!!
I have spoken with several people (mainly men) about video games. One guy judged me because I didn’t play certain zombie games. I particularly don’t enjoy zombie games. The conversation started because I was wearing a shirt that said Keep Calm and Kill Zombies. I also didn’t watch The Walking Dead. The man got in my face and started drilling me about the games I wasn’t playing and the shows I wasn’t watching and how I shouldn’t be wearing that shirt. He tried to play it off as playful but it felt as if I was being attacked. He didn’t seem like “Oh cool a chick that’s into video games and maybe zombies.” It was “Oh this chick thinks she likes zombies let me drill her and see if she is worthy of liking zombies. Oh she likes video games? Let me question that too and if she doesn’t play the games I do then they aren’t real games and this chick isn’t a gamer.” If that wasn’t their intent then they didn’t succeed in making it playful.
IF SOMEONE ISN’T INTO THE SAME THING YOU ARE DOESN’T MEAN THEY AREN’T VALID
If someone doesn’t know a band you do INTRODUCE THEM
If someone hasn’t played a game you have ENCOURAGE THEM TO
STOP thinking people aren’t up to your standards because they don’t like or have heard of the same things you have.
STOP making people feel worthless because they aren’t into the same things you are.